Tuesday, December 28, 2010

Little Reminders

Some days I have to remind myself that what I am experiencing, my children are experiencing as well. Most days I forget that they do, because as a Mom I am wrapped up in what I have to "do". I keep busy, as do my children. There is always somewhere to go, or somewhere to be. My husband is deployed, and even though this is not a "new" experience for us, and we have done this many times before, it always comes with its' challenges. I always have a joke or something funny to say to make light of the situation. However, I forget, that just as I am "managing" my feelings, so are my children. There are times that I do have to actually remind myself that "I do have a husband", because let's face it, somedays it can feel as if I do not. Today, while having lunch at a restaurant, I had to laugh. Once we had all placed our orders, my youngest son (who is five years old), said to our waitress , "we have a dad". Just like that! Out of the blue, he said, "we have a dad". It was funny at the time, and still is, but it reminds me that they are experiencing the same feelings that I am. Maybe these little reminders help them as well. As parents, we often forget just how much our childrens feelings reflect our own, they just do not have the words to express it. I do not think my son could have said more, in any other way, than he did today with those simple words.  I am thankful that he said it, because, even though I know he misses his Daddy, it has never been more clear to me just how much, as it was today. With his "little reminder", my world was changed.